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BEFORE WE DIG IN:

Lighter fare for the summer. I like jokes and riveting testimonials:

Sign on a Plumber's truck: "We repair what your husband fixed."

Bumper sticker: My mother doesn't just enjoy guilt trips. She runs the travel agency."

"I cannot say this urgently enough: you have to read Gone Girl. It's as if Gillian Flynn has mixed us a martini using battery acid instead of vermouth and somehow managed to make it taste really, really good. Gone Girl is delicious and intoxicating and delightfully poisonous. It's smart (brilliant, actually). It's funny (in the darkest possible way). The writing is jarringly good, and the story is, well...amazing. Read the book and you'll discover-among many other treasures-just how much freight (and fright) that last adjective can bear."

-Scott Smith, New York Times bestselling author of The Ruins and A Simple Plan

SHARP CLUB 25 is coming soon. I have been a psychotherapist for 25 years and will be opening The Sharp Club to you--with a treasure trove of insights from my experience, training, books, magazines, seminars, and various connections. Stay tuned.

The British Open at Royal Birkdale concludes today.

The Dig below continues exploration of an important theme in your life.

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LEAVING PEOPLE BEHIND (part 2)

We can't love everybody, keep up with everybody, and hopefully there isn't much need to stay with people who make our lives worse.

A bit more perspective:

We must give thanks for all the people who have not left us, who stayed while we stumbled, fell, learned and grew. Teachers. Friends. Parents. Ministers or Rabbis. Relatives. Significant others. Consider contacting at least one person today to express your gratitude for their support.

If you have not left someone behind who tried your patience and almost convinced you to give up (though you never wanted to), be proud of your persistence.

It's a serious mistake and common folly to leave people behind all too easily, for not very good reasons. I wonder how many more people we could keep up with if we weren't so in love with the television.

Do you think it possible that someone in your life feels forced to stay with you?

A friend says, "The phone works two ways." There are all kinds of people who look like they have stopped caring about you and they never call, write, or visit. That's life. It hurts, but here is the balm: pay more attention to those who do show their caring, give them VIP status in your heart, and feed on their love.

You can't hurt people and expect them to like you. And don't think that you can keep getting hurt by someone and still like him or her-it's impossible. Your sensitive heart will protest and turn to ice.

And finally, this from my heart. I do not easily believe in heaven. Unlike all the strident atheists of our day, I so wish there to be a heaven, not necessarily because I want to live forever (though I do, because I'm way behind on my reading), but because I want Big, Big Love (the nicest name I've ever heard for God) to soothe, comfort and restore all the tear-filled, broken people of the world who never had a chance. And I wish even more that the Big, Big Love will not leave any of us behind for we are skilled enough in doing that ourselves.


Next week we find a treasure from the past.

Chat then;

Bob Beverley

P.S. Sharing wisdom is absolutely necessary in this oft foolish world. I'd be honored if you pass THE DIG along to your friends.


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Bob Beverley is a psychotherapist in the mid-Hudson Valley of New York State, USA. He has written Peace Etc. A Journey Through Open Heart Surgery and Other Scary Things, Written to Lessen Your Anxiety, Whatever It May Be; Emotional Elegance (with an Introduction by David Allen; Dear Tiger: A Book for Tiger Woods and For Us All; How to Be a Christian and Still Be Sane and The Secret Behind the Secret Law of Attraction (with Kevin Hogan, Dave Lakhani and Blair Warren). All books are available on Amazon, except "Emotional Elegance" which is available at www.emotionalelegance.com

Bob is available for motivational speaking, consultation, and psychotherapy. Bob is the leader of a unique, life-changing experience called THE SHARP CLUB.

His website is FindWisdomNow.com where you can discover advice that has, as Bob says, "been road-tested in the emotional emergency ward I have always worked in. What I have to say is not a stage show. My audience comes back next week." Bob can be reached at Bob@FindWisdomNow.com